Desperate Housewife Yes…Wistera Lane? Not So Much…

For the third time in two weeks, a female teacher has been arrested for having a sexual relationship with a male student in our area.  This time it was a bit too close for comfort.  Reporters are now camped outside my daughter’s school and the school Principal is not returning calls. 

 Wake up people….this is real life, not Wisteria Lane.  Although you may be desperate, you are certainly not Eva Longoria having an affair with a young gardener.

What in heaven’s name are these women thinking?  First off, in your forties, why would you endeavor to take on “raising” another child in a sexual relationship?  Secondly, why is the principal not speaking with anyone and not accountable for what happens in his school?  Apparently, he has no problem with reporters hawking students that attend the school as they gather like vultures on the property.

Most importantly, however, is the mentality of the fine upstanding citizens of the Tampa area.  “Good job son” stands among the comments posted on our local news boards.  My young daughter noted the fact that this woman dresses like a twelve year old “Prostitot”, and has young boys gathered around her constantly.  If the students of the school notice this, why did the administration not notice the behavior?

Had the victim had been a seventeen year-old female; the attitude would certainly be different.  There is no difference in the crime due to the gender of the victim.  An adult charged with the care of a minor child violated that trust in the worst way possible.  The courts need to stop the “slap on the wrist” punishment issued to these sexual offenders and toss their delicate little behinds in jail. 

Here, in the year 2008, we are still using a double standard and that is appalling.  A female teacher who has a physical relationship with a minor is just as guilty as a male teacher who does the same.  The crime should not be glorified, nor should any special consideration be given.

Unfortunately, the list of victims affected by the decision this woman made is not limited to the boy.  The woman in custody has a teen-aged daughter that attends the school where she taught.  Acting so irresponsibly as a teacher is a crime, acting that selfishly as a parent is incomprehensible. 

Coming Soon…The New Definition of Going Green

“Going Green” is about to take on new meaning.  Talk of stopping the use of plastic is going to mean more than cutting down on the purchase of disposable products and purchasing cloth shopping sacks.  America is finally feeling the effects of the “Charge It” generation.  Hold on to your boots kids, we are about to return to more disciplined times.

Most prevalent in the headlines is the sub-prime mortgage industry.  Firm after firm has imploded, and the Wall Street Firms that invested heavily in those mortgages are about to topple.   People who trusted these investment firms to manage retirement accounts have collectively lost billions of dollars, which presents a crisis for those ready to retire.  These Baby-Boomers are now faced with working well into their seventies to compensate for the losses. 

America’s homeless population rises by the day, as banks file foreclosure actions in rising numbers.  People are aware for the first time in a long time that the loaf of bread which was $1.29 last week now costs $1.40.  Comparison shopping is back in style.I can visualize the nightmare.  The same children that were spoiled rotten with designer clothing at top prices are going to be holding their breath until they turn blue.  Gone are the days where a credit card can be handed over with a “Now dear, use good judgment”.    The reign of terror created by American eagle, Aeropostle and others is just about over. 

Over a year ago, I voiced an opinion that the predicted “nine month cycle” of a real estate crisis would not turn out as the “experts” were forecasting.  We can no longer use plastic to put ourselves into debt for expensive video game systems, designer clothing and other frivolous commodities. 

Now that we have people making mortgage payments and tax payments courtesy of Visa and American Express, what happens when they default on those payments?  The cycle has to stop. 

Cut the cards, shred them, burn them …throw away the remains.  If you cannot pay for it in cash, don’t buy it.  If you cannot qualify for an A mortgage do not buy a home.  Let personal responsibility reign and for heaven’s sake, when you say “I’m going green “apply the philosophy to your budget as well.

Private Issues In The Public Eye

Take cover e-mail addicts, here they come.  Your inbox is about to be besieged by horridly tasteless cartoons depicting the disgraceful fall of New York Governor Mark Spitzer. 

Society’s obsession with scandal turns coverage of private events in public families into the most highly valued prize a reporter can secure.  Covering the story of a governor that was elected as a result of his ability to cure social ills who falls in disgrace is like holding a forty six carat diamond.  At times, I am certain that ice water runs through the veins of these sensationalistic vampires.

Currently, any of our neighbors may be involved in an extra-marital affair.  Men and women alike cheat on their spouses through the course of their marriages.  None of these people are subject to scrutiny by the press or general global population.   The offended spouses do not withstand the embarrassment amid cameras, screaming reporters and hot lights as their straying spouses step down from the public eye.  As cameras were trained on the face of Silda Spitzer during yesterday’s news conference they captured the devastation and heartbreak broadcasting it throughout the world. 

The children in an ordinary family will go on with lives, blissfully unaware of the turmoil between their parents.  Peers will pass in the hallway, and there will be no cruel whispers among those who seek popularity. Teachers and friends will not avert their eyes from these children, nor will they remain silent or gossip about how the affected parties are reacting to a very private tragedy.  The Spitzer children will endure all of these embarrassments and more.

I would like to see the members of the press return to a time where decorum and consideration were in style.  Rather than reporters speculating on what caused this tragedy, or on what Silda Spitzer or the children feel, report the story.  New York State Governor Mark Spitzer was caught in a prostitution scandal. New York State Governor Mark Spitzer resigned.  The event is over.  Why must the pain of this family be prolonged?

Undoubtedly, a “journalist” somewhere will remember this event. A where are they now story will be solicited at all costs, and as these people attempt to put their family back together, the pain will be revisited.

One can only hope that this time next year they are as far out of the public eye as they can possibly be.

“Great minds discuss ideas.  Mediocre minds discuss events.  Small minds discuss people”.    Eleanor Roosevelt

Tribute to a Lost Hero

Perhaps the death of William F. Buckley Jr. didn’t strike many twenty or thirty something members of today’s society as important.  In fact many probably called parents or older siblings and asked William F. Who?

In the “Me” generation, people like William F. Buckley are rare.  Those heros that stand their ground whether the opinion they hold is popular or not. 

Ex CIA Agent,  Politician, Writer, Editor and Entertainer Extrodinaire could all be used to describe this hero eloquently.  He was a true right-winger, and as any good republican would, he turned his hate mail into a gold mine by composing a book from it.

Foie de gras and peanut butter were served in the same grand style at each of his dinner parties, he adored criticizing political policy and welcomed a great sparring match over his criticisms.

His name became famous alongside Richard Nixon, Barry Goldwater, Lyndon B. Johnson, John F. Kennedy and Gerald Ford.  He was a workaholic, editing a magazine and still finding time to produce one book a year throughout the majority of his career.

In the midst of shifting views and the changes that occured during the sociological shifts of the sixties and seventies, Bill Buckley never waivered.  He never abandoned his conservative views. 

Gaining a following in “cult” proportions during the years his show Firing Line was popular, a weekly roast of the leftist-come-lately caused his popularity to soar.  There is nothing like heated and honest debate to strike a fire in the souls of Americans.  We tend to take up one side or the other.

As a child in the sixties, my knowledge of this man was limited, but I knew I heard his name on the news nearly every night.  In the 1970′s, the era of  Peace, Love & Rock &Roll, and though the transitions of the late 1970′s and early 80′s, I had little appreciation for the man. 

In the 1990′s when I became a parent, and a student again after a 20 year absence from school, William F. Buckley again struck a chord.  This time, I was not a child listening to a name on the news, but an adult, with children, and political views that had changed drastically.

Here in my forties, my bohemian spirit still exists to some extent, but my admiration for men such as William F. Buckley Jr. is a flame that will forever burn within me. 

I may not have always agreed with his opinions through the years, but I see his points quite clearly now.  I have long been a fan of the saying “Happiness lies not in doing what you like, but in liking what you do.”  William F. Buckley Jr. embraced that every day of his life.

I sincerely hope that as I continue my path, I can remain even half as steadfast in the things I believe in.  In my eyes, the ability to do so is one of the characteristics of a hero.